Cyberbullying: Portrait of a Cyberbully

Online safety experts often talk about the victims of cyberbullying. Children and teens who suffer from frequent “technology harassment” exhibit signs of depression, withdrawal, and anxiety. The effects of cyberbullying are so powerful, in fact, that several instances have been linked to cases of teen suicide.

So, we’d like to take a moment to examine the profile of a cyberbully. What does a typical cyberbully look like? What are the signs to look out for? How would you know if your child was a cyberbully?

Below are a few basic characteristics of a cyberbully. (Keep in mind, there are always exceptions).

1. Female. Although researchers used to believe that boys made up the majority of instigators, a recent study found that more girls actually initiate cyberbullying than boys. Girls tend to spread rumors, whereas boys post cruel photos and videos.
2. Internet obsessed. Most cyberbullies spend hours on their computers. They also tend to quickly cover their computer monitors or close open windows when parents walk nearby.
3. Dictators. They love to dominate and intimidate other people. They prefer to take control of situations rather than follow others.
4. Aggressors. Most cyberbullies illustrate signs of aggressive behavior towards peers that are both intentional and repetitive.
5. Anxious. Cyberbullies often report experiencing high levels of social anxiety.

Remember, cyberbullying is no laughing matter. Victims may suffer traumatic and long-lasting effects as a result of the harassment. If your child is caught cyberbullying, he/she could be punished or expelled by school officials, and even face criminal charges.

If you think your child may be engaging in cyberbullying behavior, you must intervene. Try monitoring their Internet and cell phone usage first. If you discover suspicious content, gently inquire about your findings. Do your best to talk to your child about the importance of avoiding hurtful behavior and how holding on to negativity may have lasting effects on their lives. Think about creating a “technology contract” along with your child to promote responsible electronic conduct. Discuss the significance of building positive friendships and how to be “mindful” of one's actions. If your child does not respond and continues to display negative behavior, consider talking to a behavioral health professional for more input.

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